The Importance of Compatibility in a Relationship

It seems as if it’s so hard to make relationships work today.  Divorce rates are at an all time high.  It is estimated that 50% of first marriages end in divorce, while 67% of second marriages end in divorce and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.  It’s safe to say that no matter who you are and who your beautiful mate is, you only have a 50% chance of making the relationship work.  That’s a sobering statistic worth thinking about.

Even before people get married, hundreds of thousands of couples break up in courtship.  Some prospective mates never get passed the first date, while others suffer through years of a miserable relationship before finally breaking it up.  We know what keeps people together: the desire for love.  We want to love and be loved.  By all logic, maintaining a relationship should be a very easy thing to do…but it’s not.

What are the causes of relationship break up? It can be any number of factors. It can be because of financial problems. It can be due to sexual problems. Fidelity is always a major issue in a troubled relationship. Drug dependency and career choice can also be very powerful factors. However, all of these things can be summed up in one word: compatibility.
No matter who is right or wrong, or no matter what awful circumstances come into play, the truth of the matter is that a couple who is not compatible cannot last. . Our compatibility determines how we react to the other person, and just how much pain is worth enduring in the name of love. If we do not truly love a person due to compatibility, then we have no motivation to continue prolonging the relationship. Don’t even consider how to get him back if you are completely incompatible.

What about moral choices? What about promises made? In the long run, misery cannot compete with happiness. Most people are willing to break a promise if it means finding true happiness. Who can blame them? This indicates that finding true compatibility is the most important aspect in finding a lasting relationship.

Yes, compromise is certainly important, as is effective communication. However, unless you really connect with your partner, as in you share their core values and interests, then a lack of compatibility will always be your greatest threat. So take your courtship seriously. Never settle for less than what you want and deserve. Educate yourself before you enter into a relationship. The woman men adore enters a relationship knowing herself and what she needs; a smarter attitude will bring you lasting happiness!