3 Ways Women Accidentally Push Men

When it comes to men, most women have the best intentions. When they have a problem relating to or trying to impress a man it is often because of one reason: they do and say things that another woman would understand but that is easy for a man to misconstrue. Here are 3 ways women innocently push men away.

1. Don't Smile At Men

When I've mentioned this to clients (yes, I actually have) they look at me as if to say, "Come on, you can't be serious that smiling makes that much of a difference with men." There has been research that has shown that one of the characteristics that makes women appear to be more attractive is her smile. Yes most women feel they smile enough. They don't. Smiling is vulnerable. They fear that the wrong sort of man will get the wrong impression and pursue them. They say they don't want to "lead a man on," when in fact what they don't want to do is be vulnerable. They want to act guarded and have a man break though their barrier and win them over. The problem is that when a woman keeps the "waste of time" guys away, she's also repelling those that would make a good boyfriend who hasn't been given the invitation of your smile to approach you.

2. Share Too Much Information Too Early

With women the idea of sharing your thoughts and feelings is considered a sign of endearment. A woman shares with another about herself as a way of saying that she values that person enough to share what is in her heart. With men, it's different. Men don't share unless there is a degree of emotional intimacy. Put another way, women share to create intimacy while men share once intimacy has been established. If you share too many details about yourself you'll likely overwhelm a man. He may be quite interested in all of those details initially but he's going to get overwhelmed. He simply can't handle as much information as you can. When sharing information remember this, when he's listening to you it requires work for him. He has to concentrate and if you share too much, he's going to pull away.

3. Sleep With Him

Sleep with him? How can that push him away? Oh it won't initially. He'll love the fact that you gave yourself to him. You will have aroused feelings in his heart that will make him feel euphoric......for awhile. Then, since men get overwhelmed easily, he'll pull away. Count on it. Don't pretend that you're situation is different. He's not bonding with you during sex like you are with him. That's not how men bond. When you give yourself to him the challenge is gone. If he hasn't bonded with you BEFORE sex, then you'll likely lose him once you sleep with him. What's sad is that most women don't believe this and violate this rule until they reach a certain age (usually after 30) and then they realize it's truth. Then they become sacred when they realize the leverage they had in their 20's isn't there anymore. Now they have to learn how to captivate a man with more than just the promise of sex.