Why Doesn't He Call Back?

The most frequent question we get asked is this, "Why doesn't he call back?" Most of these questions are focused on one of these 3 different senerios but the all start with - Why didn't he call back when...

1) We Had A Great Date

The evening seemed to be going so well. You both laughed and he seemed to be genuinely interested in what you had to say. There is nothing you can think of that you said or did that was wrong or rude. You've thought and thought and the more you think, the more frustrated you become. Why wouldn't he call back when he had a good time? To begin with it's likely that what you remember is accurate. If you had a good time then he probably did as well. What most likely happened is that you did something that reminded him of a stereotype that he finds unappealing. Like what? An example would be a woman who shared how difficult a day she had with her boss and the man interpreted her conversation as her being negative. It's not that she was being negative, it's that on a first date the other person doesn't know you that well. I realize that isn't the full explanation that you'd hoped for. If you want to know a much more detailed answer to this and other questions about men try this.

 

2) He Asked For My Phone Number

You met him at a party or perhaps at a friend's football party. You noticed him right away and you were thrilled that he walked across the room to talk to you. For the next 15 minutes the conversation seemed to go well until he said he had to leave but wanted to know if he could call you sometime. After you gave him your phone number you assumed he actually meant that - he's call you sometime. That was 3 weeks ago. I'm sorry to be repetitious but the most likely reason he didn't call back was that he started thinking about something you said or did that had a negative connotation. Just like the reason for #1 (above). So why would he still asks for your phone number? The short answer is that he felt a connection "in the moment." He acted on that feeling only to "think about it" later and decide he didn't want to pursue you. Is it childish, yes.

 

3) We spent so much time together

After you spend a lot of time with a man (guy) it's easy to want to get even closer. The problem is that men can only handle so much emotional closeness. Oh, they like feeling close for short periods of time but they get overwhelmed by emotions much easier than a woman. The woman that understands men well knows that after a long period of time spent together it is normal for a man to withdraw. It doesn't mean she likes it, but if she understands this tendency then she can allow him to withdraw without punishing him. While this may sound like the woman should just allow him to leave whenever he wants, it's not. Letting him detach for short periods of time is acceptable. If he withdraws for longer periods, then it's time to set some limits. Having the skill to set those limits often requires special insights about men. Once you have them, training your man becomes quite easy.