Make Him Commit

Have you been dating your man for a while but still can’t get him to commit?

Many men seem to be somewhat ‘hard-wired’ to believe that commitment is never a good choice. In fact, these men often try and convince women that a commitment is merely a formality. Did you know that deep inside the heart of a man is the secret desire to be in a committed relationship with a woman he trusts? Most men wouldn't say this but one fact is obvious throughout the world over. Over 98% of all men will marry during their lifetime. In fact, in those places where marriage is less likely (in some parts of China where men outnumber women where it is estimated that 40 million men will spend their lives as bachelors) the men feel tremendously discouraged because they don't believe they will ever get what they want to most - a woman to spend their life with.

Why Men Fear Commitment

If this is the case, then why are so many men afraid of commitment? What most women don't realize is that men commit to things every day. They commit to buying a house, a car and a host of other things. Many men are hesitant to commit to women because frankly....they don't have to. So many women today give men what they want (think sex) and expect so little in return. Can you imagine if a man walked up to a BMW dealership (that's a sports car) and said to the salesman, "I'd like to drive your nicest car because I might decide to buy it. I don't want to commit to it, but I'd just like to drive it as my own for as long as I like." Can you image the response from the salesman? He would laugh at such a proposal. If he took the man seriously he'd reply, "I'm sorry sir but you can have the car when you BUY it." No man would be upset at such a requirement.

Men Don't Bond Like Women

What many women believe is that a man bonds because he feels passion for a woman. Wrong. They don't. Men want sex when they feel intense feelings for a woman, but they're not bonding during this phase. Men bond when they commit to a woman. This is why most men are cautious about getting married. They know that getting married makes them vulnerable to a woman in all aspects of their lives - sexually, emotionally and financially. If you as a woman give more to a man than he is giving to you, then you're training him not to commit to you.

Men Value What They Work For

To get him to commit to you he must see you as The Woman Men Adore. It is a combination of both making him feel good and maintaining your value that makes a man want to commit to you. When he has to "work" to capture your heart, he's actually bonding with you. I understand you don't want to "play games," but you must understand that men often take longer to commit than women. If you spend too much time with him in the beginning of a relationship it may feel good, but it will actually take him longer to commit to you.